Soapbox of recovery terminology

why is it so difficult for people to understand what we mean by "person-first" language? People who are intelligent, and good friends, seem to believe that in order to correct a symptom or a disease, they must 'claim' it first.  I would rather say: I have Bi Polar Disorder, than a person who may say: "I am a diabetic". my main form of distinction is my way of saying that a person is NOT their disease. So when some one, for example in the medical field asks me, are you diabetic? I would say no. It is confusing, because in common parlance, I would be not be able to make a distinction between being something and having a disorder that makes life challenging. If I had diabetes, I would have to explain this to medical personnel, because I am not going to say. "I am diabetic." I would say, I HAVE diabetes. This is a pet peeve of mine. so saying goodnight to the soapbox. Good night, All. Starsib

A No-Fault Life

musings upon a slight contretemps. I have been thinking about back when "9 to 5" jobs were commonplace, and Corporate America actually recruited people to be office slaves and cogs in the wheel.

I had a minor disagreement with a friend, on the telephone the other day; and this thought came in to my mind a few days later.

What if we were to make an attempt to live our lives, without blame, shame, or guilt? Finding fault with others, and ourselves is counter-productive. 

I feel as if I try to live according to high ideals, perhaps I am reaching for the stars, but there is no harm in having ideals and striving to be a better person.

No, I am not saying a person should be a "Pollyanna" or

a "Ray of Sunshine" 24/7!

What I am trying to say, is live a "no fault" life.
This means to me, not to be completely blameless; but don't blame people for things that cannot be helped or that are relatively insignificant in the larger point of view. 

Some people have said, in order to put things in to perspective, think about how important something would be 100 years from now.

I believe that things like leaving the Earth a better place for those who come after us is important, and one way to do that is to be a better person now.

I have my moments of self-doubt, and can feel as if I am laying a 'guilt trip' on myself, and can 'beat myself up' for insignificant things.

Live a No-Fault life, and you will feel better about yourself, and others.

Off Soapbox. pushing the podium away.

Talk later. Starsib. 

On the Road

My mind is on the road. I created a CD with some traveling tunes for my friend, and he is on the road right now, and my mind and heart are with him. To say that this is excruciatingly painful, is to say the least. I get so caught up in things, and it is easy to lose your heart to a fellow 'seeker'.  I feel as if I need to re-balance my world, and it is going to take some time.  It can't be done in one or two days. I have come to terms with some folks criticism, and dismissing my feelings; that is not right in my book. People have their own conflicts and displeasures. I am going to see if my "seester" is available to talk with. She has known me for a long time, and probably will not try and "talk some sense" in to me, but will just sit and listen.. More later. Starsib

stuff and things

just chillin'  haven't written in here for a while. Contemplating a new space. Wish me luck. A